Do Soul Mates Exist?
One of my newsletter subscribers has given me permission to share with you a question she asked regarding soul mates. Here is her question:
"Do you mind telling me how to know when I have met my soul mate or when I should wheel in the other direction as fast as I can without looking back?"
Here is what I think:
When you meet your soul mate in a romantic sense, you will be able to be your pure, authentic self. You will feel absolutely comfortable in your skin – totally. Of course, it is natural that you want to put your best foot forward in relationships that are of a romantic nature. However, when you are with your soul mate, you won't mind him seeing you without your makeup. You won't stress over her seeing you without your shirt on, exposing a little weight on your tummy.
Please know that the comments I am making are to be considered at the beginning of a relationship. People's bodies change as we age so the statements I am making are not applicable to an established, long-term relationship! In other words, do not meet someone and then begin to think about how you can change him or her. It won't work. What you see at the beginning is what you get!
In a soul mate relationship, you will not feel the need to change your partner. You will accept him/her just as they are. Others may not understand and may even question you regarding your choice in a partner and you may not even be able to explain it yourself!
If you are in the presence of your soul mate won't have the thoughts, "If I could just get him to go to church or get a better paying job, he would be perfect." You won't say things like, "Baby, I would really like it if you could loose a few pounds or can you stop wearing whatever." I am not saying that one should not strive to look and be their best. Your soul mate will not be perfect because no human being is. However, your soul mate will be perfect for you and vice versa.
1. A soul mate can be a friend, relative, lover, spouse or a family member. A soul mate can be of the opposite sex or the same sex. Soul mate relationships are not just romantic or between lovers. There are several women in my life who I know are my soul mates. We can go for weeks without talking, and when we do, it's like the previous conversation never ended. We just pick up where we left off. When these women are in some type of trouble, I feel it in my spirit and when I call them, they share that they are going through some type of situation that is very stressful, painful, etc. When I ignore spirit's urging to call them, I feel bad later when they share what they have been through. I feel bad because I could've been there for them.
2. Soul mates are two people who are drawn together by a very strong connection that often defies human explanation. There will be this undeniable, inexplicable, indescribable attraction that is not lust.
3. A romantic relationship with a soul mate does not mean that the relationship will not experience bumps in the road. However, I do believe that difficulties within a relationship with a soul mate should be overcome because of the deep soul connection. Beware; if a relationship is one huge bump in the road, this is not your soul mate.
I have read that some people say they saw an ‘aura of light' around their soul mate when they met. Some people believe in previous lives and reincarnation. I do not believe in reincarnation or previous lives. People are free to believe whatever but I do believe that when you are in the presence of a soul mate, even if you don't realize it at first, you will eventually be drawn to this person and you honestly won't be able to explain (particularly in romantic relationships) what in the world makes you feel just so connected to this particular person.
Finally, to sum it all up, I believe that a soul mate will help you be your best self. You will discover that since you've been associated with this person, you have grown significantly or are growing in some underdeveloped or undeveloped area of your life. Thus, a soul mate can be a friend, a mentor, a lover, a family member – virtually anyone who's presence in your live takes you to a higher level of living.
Copyright Carmin Wharton 2008.